雇佣住家保姆血泪经验教训，总结1200字纯干货 Lessons learned from hiring a live-in nanny: a 1200-word summary of practica

雇佣住家保姆的经验教训，在美国的华人涉外保姆同样适用！

2、面试保姆时，要明确提出自己的要求，亮出底线，以便双方了解彼此需求。比如工作时间禁止玩手机，严禁在互联网各大平台拍雇主家/家人的各种照片及泄露定位，严禁带外人来雇主家、雇主家人聊天禁止插嘴、上户期间不喷香水不化妆等等。要求看似很多 但是都是基本行业准则，一些家政公司甚至也会定期普及培训，但是需要雇主在面试时就提出来。一方面劝退一些想混日子的阿姨，另一方面让对方知道雇主家是有要求的。如果是经验丰富的阿姨，那么这些要求她都是可以理解并接受的。

Lessons learned from hiring live-in nannies also apply to Chinese expatriate nannies in the US!

1. When interviewing a nanny, ask her to name her price. Don't haggle over the price she says; agree readily. If the price fits your budget, continue negotiating; if not, move on to the next interview. This allows you to easily set your requirements later. Otherwise, the nanny might think, "You're only paying me so much, yet you're making so many demands," which could easily discourage her from staying.

2. When interviewing a nanny, clearly state your requirements and bottom line so both parties understand each other's needs. For example, no using your phone during work hours, no taking photos of the employer's home/family members or revealing your location on any internet platform, no bringing outsiders to the employer's home, no interrupting family members' conversations, no wearing perfume or makeup during visits, etc. These requirements may seem numerous, but they are basic industry standards. Some domestic service companies even provide regular training on this, but employers need to raise these points during the interview. This serves two purposes: it deters some nannies who want to coast through the job and lets the nanny know that the employer has expectations. Experienced nannies will understand and accept these requirements.

3、保姆上门第一天就要立好规矩，必须制定严谨但宽松的日常作息。如早上几点起床，几点收拾家，几点带孩子出门玩。如果不制定严格的作息，那么就会发现阿姨一顿饭可以吃一个小时，梳洗打扮可以搞俩小时。但是作息也要宽松，适当给阿姨留出补觉、放空、休息的时间，毕竟阿姨不是机器，只有得到更好的休息才能更好的工作。即便是上班都有严格的作息所以不要不好意思，一支笔一张纸就可以解决很多问题。

4、必须安装监控 。比如厨房、入户门、客厅等房间必须安装监控！不要因为不好意思就不安，也无需解释自己安监控的原因。这是你的家 ，你想安就安，想在哪里安就哪里安，绝对不能被阿姨拿捏。因为百分之九十的阿姨都会揩雇主家的油水，至清则无鱼。安监控可以起到一定的震慑作用，上户或面试时就要告知。我听到有的雇主一开始会安装，等阿姨做久了就会觉得相处在一起都快变成一家人了于是取掉监控，这是非常不理智的行为。雇主和阿姨永远不是一家人，只是简单的雇佣关系，安装监控只有利没有弊，丑话说前头比事后撕破脸强千倍万倍。

3. Establish clear rules on the first day the nanny arrives. A strict yet flexible daily routine is essential. This includes things like wake-up time, housework time, and time to take the children out to play. Without a strict schedule, the nanny can easily spend an hour eating a meal and two hours getting ready. However, the schedule should also be flexible, allowing time for naps, relaxation, and rest. Nannies aren't machines; they need proper rest to work effectively. Even working professionals have strict schedules, so don't be shy. A pen and paper can solve many problems.

4. Security cameras are mandatory. Cameras must be installed in rooms such as the kitchen, entrance, and living room! Don't be embarrassed to install them, and there's no need to explain your reasons. This is your home; install cameras wherever you want, and don't let the nanny control you. Ninety percent of nannies will try to take advantage of their employers; too much honesty is detrimental. Security cameras serve as a deterrent; inform the nanny during the initial visit or interview. I've heard of employers who initially install surveillance cameras, but after the caregivers have worked there for a while, they feel they've almost become family and remove them. This is extremely irrational. Employers and caregivers are never family; it's just a simple employment relationship. Installing surveillance cameras only has advantages and no disadvantages. It's a thousand times better to be upfront about these issues than to have a falling out later.

5、拒绝和阿姨闲聊、谈及家事、议论家人，家里的东西不要告诉阿姨价格，在家不谈论东西贵贱与否，不要给阿姨透露雇主的经济状况与消费水平。不要送阿姨各种礼物，公休给阿姨连吃带拿的。过年等重要节日可以略加表示。保持基本的边界感，搞清楚阿姨是上门来做事的，不是来八卦的，阿姨了解雇主家越多雇主越被动。

6、不要和阿姨坐在一起吃饭。可以雇主先吃阿姨后吃，一定要分餐制。有些大户人家甚至需要专门的管家，避免阿姨和雇主的深度接触，保持雇主的神秘感可以有效拉开彼此距离，这样才能做得长久。网上和男雇主过于亲密导致阿姨把自己的女儿介绍给男雇主做小这样的故事屡见不鲜，当阿姨和你共坐一个板凳，共吃一盘菜，时间久了她甚至会雌竞，觉得女主人甚至都该换她来做，这不是危言耸听，这就是人性。

5. Refrain from casual conversation, discussing family matters, or gossiping about family members with the nanny. Don't tell her the prices of household items, and avoid discussing their value. Don't reveal the employer's financial situation or spending habits. Avoid giving the nanny gifts or providing her with meals and other perks on holidays. Small gifts are acceptable during important holidays like Chinese New Year. Maintain basic boundaries and understand that the nanny is there to work, not to gossip. The more the nanny knows about the employer's family, the more passive the employer becomes.

6. Don't eat with the nanny. The employer should eat first, followed by the nanny, and meals should always be served separately. Some wealthy families even require a dedicated housekeeper. Preventing close contact between the nanny and employer, and maintaining an air of mystery, effectively creates distance and ensures a long-term relationship. Stories of nannies becoming too intimate with male employers online, leading them to introduce their daughters to the employers as concubines, are common. When the nanny sits on the same bench and eats from the same dish as you, over time she might even feel competitive, thinking she should take over as the mistress of the house. This isn't an exaggeration; it's human nature.

7、与保姆交谈或者安排工作，使用祈使句，做到不卑不亢，多余的话尽量不说，不要太客气。与底层人打交道就是一句话，小人畏威不畏徳，我深有体会。如果阿姨狡辩，就不要与她分辨，让她意识到自己的问题。狡辩肯定是不对的，如果你说一句她说十句解释，时间久了就让她下户吧。

8、不要雇熟人。不要雇熟人。不要雇熟人。那种农村大公主，放下锄头进城的、七仙女下凡体验民间百姓生活疾苦的趁早歇菜、达咩 。

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7. When talking to a nanny or assigning tasks, use imperative sentences, be neither servile nor overly arrogant, and avoid unnecessary words. Don't be overly polite. Dealing with people from lower socioeconomic backgrounds boils down to one thing: they fear power, not morality. I know this all too well. If the nanny tries to argue, don't argue with her; let her realize her mistake. Arguing is definitely wrong. If she offers ten explanations for every one you say, eventually she'll have to leave.

8. Don't hire acquaintances. Don't hire acquaintances. Don't hire acquaintances. Those rural princesses who have abandoned their fields for the city, or those fairy maidens descending to experience the hardships of ordinary life, should just give up.

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